Office Redo

Busy weekend at BabyLove.  We had the Small Talk class on Saturday morning, which was reportedly a wonderful time. (The next class is in March May).  Shortly after class ended, two men showed up in a van to take away this old monstrosity:

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It was a good desk, but huge and heavy and just ONE desk for the two of use to share.  So, we’ve spent the last couple of months being thrifty and searching Craigslist for just the right desks and pieces to add to our space.  And while it took about 3 hours to make the change, it was worth it.  We’ve gotten rid of the curtain, which means the room has really opened up.  We’re in the process of filling the empty walls, and changing some more of the storage options.  It’s getting there.  We’ll work on getting a nicer picture, too, but here’s an after:

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What do you think?  Love it?  Hate it?

 

 

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

BabyLove’s Featured Family: Dad Chris’s View

Featured Fam March

On Monday, we continued our monthly series of presenting a Featured Family from BabyLove.  We heard from Beth; today we will hear from Chris.  If you are a BabyLove family and would like to be featured, let us know!

  • So far, what has been your biggest joy in becoming a father?

I think it is what most fathers find the biggest joy, just being a father and having a small baby that smiles and laughs for you.

  • What has been the biggest challenge you’ve faced since your baby was born?

The biggest challenge has been sleeping and time management so that Beth and I are able to do the things around the house that need to be done while taking care of the baby and ourselves.

  • How has your relationship with your wife changed since the birth of your baby?

I don’t feel our relationship has changed. At least not enough to notice. If anything I try to be more comforting and helpful around the house so that she can get time to relax and sleep.

  • Did you feel that your childbirth classes prepared you for birth? How so?

I do feel the classes we took through BabyLove helped us prepare. I was more comfortable with what was happening and felt I could make actual contributions to help Beth.

  • What is one thing you think all parents should know before the birth of their baby?

The best relationship I have found with my child has been spending as much time talking , playing, holding, staring, and generally being around her as much as possible.

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

BabyLove’s Featured Family: Beth, Chris, and Miss E

This is our second post in our new series where we feature different BabyLove families and get their thoughts on becoming new parents.  Today, we hear what Beth thinks about becoming a mother.

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So far, what has been your biggest joy in becoming a mother?

My biggest joy has been watching us evolve from a couple with a newborn to a family in just a few short weeks.  It’s incredible how much more love such a small person has brought into our lives.

What has been the biggest challenge you’ve faced since your baby was born?

I have struggled with finding guilt-free time for myself.  Whether it’s taking a nap or running out to the store, I tend to end up feeling badly that I’ve left Elaine with someone else, even though I know it’s good for both of us.  Along the same lines, I recently went back to work after 12 weeks of maternity leave.  It’s hard to think of all the things I’m missing during the day and whenever she has a rough day at grandma’s I can’t help but feel a little guilty.

Where and how have you found support for yourself when you’ve needed it?

Both our families have been wonderfully supportive from the start.  It has also helped me to have a few co-workers with just slightly older babies to talk to.  And of course BabyLove’s Mama Cafe has been a wonderful place to connect with other moms and get questions answered.

Did you feel that your childbirth classes prepared you for birth? How so?

I did a lot of my own research about childbirth and coping methods, but I did feel like having all of the information presented in a coherent way was helpful to understanding the birth process and how to incorporate comfort measures into it.

What is one thing you think all parents should know before the birth of their baby?

No matter how your birth goes- whether it’s exactly as planned or completely different- once you have your baby in your arms it probably won’t matter.  If you do find yourself needing to make peace with your experience though, there are lots of resources out there and you shouldn’t be afraid to find the support you need!

 

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

A Doula at the Dentist

It’s been a long 6 weeks.

Back in February, I had a crown placed.  One week later, I was back because of pain.  They didn’t really address it, but even after they put on the permanent, I still had pain. So last week, I was at the dentist for 3 hours (until 10pm!) getting the permanent taken off and a new temp crown placed.   The experience was excruciating.  So when I was told last week the only way to fix it was to get a root canal, I was freaked out.

Fortunately, I found a friend to come with me and be my doula for the procedure.

It was not fun to get the root canal done, and it ended up taking way longer than expected.  But it was super nice to have that support in the room with me.  So while a tooth is not the same as having a baby (Teeth being worked on: Not a normal biological process.  Giving birth: A normal biological process.), they did have some similarities:

1) I didn’t know what to expect, but having someone talking be through what I didn’t know was helpful.

2) I had someone to keep me calm while being worked on.  My doula rubbed my ankle, which reminded me I wasn’t alone and gave me something else to focus on.

3)When I needed something, she was paying attention to ME, and could communicate that with the staff.  I needed more numbing in my mouth, and she MADE SURE that was taken care of quickly.

4) She reminded me to breathe.

5) She repeatedly told me I was doing a good job.

6) Most importantly, she was someone I knew and trusted.  I didn’t know the staff (and, let’s face it– you’re not always 100% sure how much to trust them some times.), but I had a friendly face there for me.

So, major shout-out to the lovely lady who kept me sane today.  You rock. <3, Veronica

Have there been unconventional times you wanted a doula?

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

Frequently asked questions about BabyLove

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We’ve been open now for just over 18 months (HOORAY!), and we thought it might be helpful to post some answers to various questions that have come up recently.

  • Why don’t you sell products at BabyLove? – We get this a lot.  We have a couple of reasons.  Our main reason is that we feel that it would take away from our education if we also sold specific products.  So, for instance, when we teach our Cloth Diaper and Babywearing class, we know it might be really easy to then have the different carriers and diapers to sell right there, but we pride ourselves on having classes that discuss various products without making recommendations that we would profit from.  Also, parents are inundated with the message that parenting is about having “things”, and education just isn’t the same if it’s wrapped in a marketing pitch.  When you come to us, you’ll know FOR SURE that we get absolutely NO compensation from any company, and our integrity isn’t up for sale.
  • Why don’t you do an evening Mama Cafe?-  We did try evening Mama Cafe for awhile, but it didn’t really catch on.  We are always looking at new ways to serve our community, though, so stay tuned– we’re cooking up some new ideas!
  • Why don’t you have a Refresher Class anymore?- As a result of ridiculously low interest, we felt there were better ways to use that time on our class schedule.  We realized there was a need for something closer to a “crash course”– so we created the Condensed Childbirth Prep Class.  For families who really just want a Refresher, we still have it as a private class.  We’ve had a good number of 2nd and 3rd time mamas take our Lamaze classes, too, and we love having them there to share their experiences with new parents.
  • What happened to your VBAC class?- We still offer it, but as a private class.
  • The weather is really bad! How will I know if class is canceled?- We’ve already had an interesting winter, but we’ve only had to cancel class once and Mama Cafe once.  If a class is canceled, we will email or telephone everyone in the class to let them know.  If Mama Cafe is canceled, we will try to spread the message via social media.  Whenever in doubt, call or email us.  

Any other questions you want answered?  Let us know!

 

 

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

Resources to pick a care provder

If you are newly pregnant or pregnant and still mulling over your options for birth place and care providers, there are some resources you can use to help think about where you will have your baby (or babies) and who will be there.

For the kind of care provider:

Choosing a Caregiver from Childbirth Connection – discusses the different types of providers and what questions to ask when finding a provider

Questions to Ask Your Care Provider from Lamaze

Changing your Care Provider from Mother’s Advocate

Minnesota OB Clinic Cesarean Rates- scroll to page 192 for the list of clinics and their rates

The Midwives Model of Care

For the place of birth:

Choosing a Place of Birth from Childbirth Connection- Discusses the different options and things to consider

Minnesota Hospital Cesarean Rate from Cesereanrates.com

Choosing a place of birth for a VBAC – The NIH statement and availability of emergency care

 

 

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.

Used car seats: Are they safe?

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When parents face the arrival of a new baby, the number of things they feel like they need to buy can be overwhelming.  Things like clothes, diapers of some sort, and a safe place to sleep are a must.  Lots of things, like bouncy seats and jumperroos seem necessary, but are actually just extras that are nice to have.  If you can get those “nice things” for free as hand me downs, that’s great.  But what about car seats? Can you use used car seats?  Well, best practice is always to get a new seat.  Typically, newer seats have more safety features, they are usually easier to install, and they are just cleaner, for goodness sake.  But of you REALLY are dead set on using a previously used car seat, you must keep all these things in mind:

  • Can you ABSOLUTELY verify the history of a seat? If your sister is giving you a car seat she used, you would probably know if she was ever in a car crash with that car seat. You would have heard about the car accident when it happened.  However, if you are getting a seat from a friend of a friend? Maybe not.  And buying a seat at ANY garage sale or from a thrift store? Horrible idea. It’s amazing what people will rationalize when it comes to selling used car seats at a garage sale.  Your child is more important than saving a few bucks.
  • Are all the pieces there and in working order?  I have had people bring in previously used seats that are missing buckles, with cracked shells, or broken chest clips.  Sometimes you can order these missing pieces, but let’s get real:  If the seat is broken, it’s not safe.  Simple as that. You’ve worked really hard to heave a healthy baby, so don’t put thriftiness ahead of your child’s safety.  If the seat you have isn’t safe, get a new seat. Period.
  • Does the seat have labels you can read? If you can’t read the model name, number, or manufactured on date, you simply have no idea if the seat is too old to use, nor can you check if the seat had a recall issued.
  • Is the seat too old to use? Most seats have an expiration date 5 or 6 years after the date of manufacture. (A few brands have a 7 or 9 year expiration date.) Always check with the manufacturer, but if it’s expired, the manufacturer had determined that the seat can’t be assured to work in a crash.  Don’t use an expired car seat.  And if the seat will expire before your child will grow out of it, keep in mind, you WILL need to purchase a new seat when that seat expires.
  • Has the seat been recalled? When you get a new seat, you should take the little postcard it comes with, fill it out, and send it in. If it’s someone else’s seat, you will want to go online and check to make sure there wasn’t a recall issued since the seat was purchased.
  • Lost Manual? Check online. Car seat manuals are easy to lose.  Whenever there is a question on how and where to use a seat, a tech’s answer is to always check the manual. We can’t do that if it’s not there. So go find the manufacturer’s website and print out a new one…and don’t lose it.

If you do end up with a damaged or expired car seat, you have two options. You can destroy the seat and dispose of it in your normal garbage (as you see in the photo above).  You can also go to a recycling facility that will accept car seats. There may be a fee for this, though.

Lately, I’ve had some push back from parents and pediatricians when it comes to the subject of using used, unsafe seats.  I hear that “a used seat is better than no seat”….but no. There are plenty of resources for families who TRULY can’t afford a new seat.  We are happy to help families figure out their options, and can even be a resource for care providers who don’t know what options families have. If you have a used seat (or a new seat) and want to make sure it’s being installed and used correctly, schedule your individual car seat check with us today.  It’s worth every penny!

Warmly,

Veronica

Veronica Jacobsen, BA, CLC, CPST, LCCE, FACCE
Birth Doula, Certified Lactation Counselor, Child Passenger Safety Technician, Lamaze Certified Childbirth Educator, Fellow of the Academy of Certified Childbirth Educators

Opening BabyLove in September of 2011 has allowed me to build a space where all families can come to get good information in a caring, welcoming environment. I have found that not only do I love teaching more than ever, but I also really love running a business. Hopefully my passion for every aspect of BabyLove shines through.
I live in Richfield with my husband, and I am a mother of a two great children. When I can steal a few free moments, I love to go on adventures with my family, cook, garden, thrift, can, and craft.