Car Seat Recycling Event!

Big news!

Do you have old, outdated, unused, or broken car seats sitting around?  You know that they shouldn’t be used any more, but you’re reluctant to throw them away.

Well, we can help.

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Working with the Recycling Association of Minnesota’s ReSeat program, we’re excited to announce that we will be holding a recycling event on June 30th from 10am-2pm.  Bring by your old seats to the BabyLove studio, and we’ll be collecting them so that they can be recycled by the ReSeat program.   ReSeat does charge a $10 fee to cover the cost of disassembling the seat.

Help us spread the word!  Please feel free to print off and share the flier below.

Flier for drop off event 6-30-13

(Also, we would love some help with this event.  Please call, email, or tell us in person if you’re interested in helping staff this event.  We’re not making a profit at all, so any extra hands would be HUGELY appreciated!)

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Dinner and a Date Giveaway!

Summer is almost here, and we want to give away a date night to one lucky BabyLove family!  One lucky winner, drawn from random, will get a $40 gift card to Highland Grill and a $25 Gift Card to the Highland Mann Theater.

To enter, you must:

1) Find one of our vehicles around town and snap a picture of the super-cool window sticker:

919986_417120561718156_1962686710_oIt does not count if you take a picture of our cars either in the BabyLove parking lot or at our homes.  Post the picture to our Facebook page or on twitter with a comment of where you took our picture. This will count as one entry.

2) Share this blog post on your Facebook page or on twitter, and tag us in the post (on twitter @BabyLoveMN). This can count as one entry as well.

Up to two entries are allowed per person.  We will select the winner from all eligible entries received on or before June 21st.  We will draw at 9AM on June, 22nd, 2013.

 

Good luck!

 

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Tongue Tie: A True Story

 

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Yep, this really happened to me.  I struggled and struggled with breastfeeding, but nobody could tell me why it was so hard and my daughter seemed “fussy”.  Finally, when she was 6 years old, I looked in her mouth and….tongue tie.  All of the people I went to for help could have noticed it…if they had the proper education on the importance of screening for tongue and lip ties.  Left untreated, tongue and lip ties can cause painful latching, difficulty latching, slow weight gain, sleep apnea, colic, speech issues, tooth decay, and misaligned teeth.  Find out more information here.

And if you are told that it’s normal, don’t buy it. IT’S NOT.

That’s my story!  The good news is we’re finally going to get it fixed.  I cringe to ask, but– do you have a story like this?

Warmly,

Veronica

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5 Reasons to be Wary of Hospital-Sanctioned Classes

Hospital childbirth education

Before I start, a small disclaimer:  I started my career as a childbirth educator, and continued to teach in hospitals until 2 years ago. I was honored to teach with some amazing educators, and I do know there are still a handful of programs in Minnesota (and by a handful, I mean 5) where the classes are taught, for the most part, by caring, qualified childbirth educators and nurses who truly have a passion for teaching and are willing to stand up for evidence-based curriculum.  However, they are the overwhelming exception, and not the rule. So before I go any further,  I want to acknowledge the educators and program directors who still believe in providing quality classes to parents in hospital settings. You women rock.

Teaching in a hospital can be a tricky proposition.  Even the best-run programs face various pressures from many sides that all have an effect on the quality of classes. The realities of maternity care in the US are coming together to create a difficult climate for evidence-based prenatal education.  Sadly, attendance in childbirth classes has dropped dramatically in the last 15 years, and I’m sure bad classes are part of the issue. So, while you might think the best choice for prenatal education for a hospital birth is to attend the hospital-sanctioned childbirth classes, here are some reasons you need to think again:

1) The classes are just too big

I find it shocking to hear how many people who go to attend childbirth classes sanctioned by their hospital do so in an auditorium or in a room with 15-20+ other families.  Lamaze limits the number of families that can attend a Lamaze series to 12 for a very good reason: big classes make it impossible to have a positive, interactive class that allows enough time for classes.  Also? Classes that big are run in lecture format, and that’s just boring.

2) Information is restricted

Even when I taught for wonderful programs, it was inevitable:  Certain topics are off-limits, despite the fact that there might be piles of evidence and official policy statements to back up the information.  In the best cases, small facts might be forbidden.  More often, though, entire topics are left out of the curriculum.  Like what? Well, anesthesiologists might not allow educators to talk about the risks to an epidural, OBs might not want VBACs mentioned, or educators might not be allowed to even discuss Cytotec or Cervadil. When waterbirth is offered at a hospital but not all practitioners support it, educators might not be allowed to discuss waterbirth, lest the glaring differences in personal practice styles come to light. To help with conformity, you’ll find that:

3) Classes are nothing more than a bunch of Power Point slides and videos

As Chief OBs, program directors, company owners,  and hospital administration have increasingly wanted to increase their strict control over class content, power points have become the preferred tool to make sure educators don’t stray from party line. It’s also the best way to cram a HUGE amount of information in a ridiculously small amount of time.  Want to fit everything about pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum into 4 hours? To do this you MUST just sit families down, start up the slides, and start reading to them, and not allow time for interaction.  No wonder so many people think childbirth classes are worthless.  You don’t need to pay someone to read to you.

4) Opinions trump evidence

Again, most of my colleagues at the hospitals I taught at really wanted to provide information to parents so the parents could make their own choices.  However, I did have colleagues who were L&D nurses who only were interested in telling moms how to be compliant patients.  Their goal was getting moms ready to be an easy, perfect patient.  (Honestly, I’ve seen independent classes that have the goal of compliance as an undercurrent, as well. Those classes are bad, too.)  Instead of telling moms about options, mothers are simply told what they will do when they give birth. And, as overwhelming evidence is showing, routine protocols that involve high rates of interventions end up with worse outcomes for mother and baby.

5) The Fear Factor

First, there needs to be a distinction made between explaining the risks versus benefits of a procedure and flat out trying to make parents fearful.  I’ve sat in on classes as colleagues have spent 10 minutes recounting the horrors of cord prolapses in excruciating detail.  I’ve heard them describe unmedicated vaginal births in such colorful terms it would even make me want twilight sleep.  And this commentary published last year by a local radio reporter is stunningly depressing.  But fear is a motivator, but also highly manipulative.  (Although, I do know some childbirth methods use fear-mongering to convince mothers to have unmedicated births too, but that that’s another post for another day.)

As I was working on this post, a mother who had taken both our classes AND her hospital’s classes commented on a Facebook post of ours.  Any mom who has taken both sees a difference, but her quote is perfect:

I’m so glad we took our classes at BabyLove. We also took one at the hospital, and let’s just say they told us a whole different story. Because of the classes we took with BabyLove, we were empowered and knew that we could have a completely natural complication-free birth (and did).

Again, there are still some good hospital classes around, but it’s time that we all realize that the majority of hospital classes (both run in-house and contracted out) are a waste of time at best and damaging at worst.  No matter what families desire, at the end of the day, we at BabyLove believe that every family deserves to have prenatal education that is evidence-based, can speak to a variety of choices,  positive, and encouraging.

Warmly,

Veronica

 

 

 

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ICYMI: Happenings at BabyLove

Our new sign-- now you'll know where we are!

Our new sign– now you’ll know where we are!

We sent out our May newsletter last week, but we try to keep our newsletter very short and only share the must relevant stuff, so there are a few things that get left out or lost in the shuffle.  And I know we try to communicate as much as we can on our Facebook page (and twitter, from time to time), but I thought it was about time to round it all up, just in case you missed something in the past.

  • Our third-ever A Night of Birth Stories is quickly approaching.  It’s on May 17th at our studio.  Find out more and RSVP here
  • Small Talk will be back this May on the 18th!  If you want to learn how to sign with your baby from an expert in a fun, friendly-atmosphere, sign up today!
  • We will be at the Synergy Open House May 18th from 11-2pm.  For more information, check out their flier!
  • The Dancing for Birth class pass option has returned; however, you still get a better price when you sign up for a series. We’re the only place in MN to find this fun class, so check it out!
  • Mama Cafe is a HUGE success lately! We will never ask that families pay for this service, but we will be putting out a tip jar; so if you love what we do every week, throw some change in!
  • If you live in St. Paul, you might have seen our classes in the Community Ed book for the summer.  You’ll see our normal classes in there, but we’re thrilled that ths gives us more exposure to an entire city!

We’re putting together our plans for the Fall, too.  We are working on adding an afternoon general mama group, some new services, and a few other fun things.  Also, stay tuned– we have new things in the works all the time.  Not on our email list?  Sign up here!

Enjoy the sun!

Warmly,

Veronica

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BabyLove Featured Family, Part 2: Heather, Brandon, Baby F, and Brother B

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Today we bring you the second half of this family’s thoughts on adding baby number 2 into the mix.  Brandon was so kind to share his thoughts; if you missed Heather’s thoughts on Monday, make sure to check them out here.  

  • So far, what has been your biggest joy in becoming a father again?

It has been a lot of fun to see our 2 year old son interact with his new sister and watch him embrace the big brother role. It was really exciting and surprising for Heather and I to find out that it was a girl this time around!

  • What has been the biggest challenge you’ve faced since your baby was born?

Sleep:) It has been challenging to adjust to two little ones who don’t always want to sleep. In addition, I try to help out Heather during the nightly feedings/changes and still get enough sleep to make it through the workday at the office. Our main focus is to maintain our son’s nightly routine and so far that has been a success.

  • How has your relationship with your wife changed since the birth of your 2nd child?

Our daughter’s birth has helped us communicate better and has helped us to cherish all these moments – our son is 2 already and the past few years can seem like a blur at times… We try to spend as much family time (reading books, playing with toys, going for a walk, etc.) as possible on weekends and after work on weekdays. We have found that Boston seems to have adjusted well to his new sister and I think a big part of that came from Heather and I continuing our family meals (when possible) and him seeing us both interacting with him similarly to when it was only the three of us.

  • Did you feel that your childbirth classes prepared you for this birth? How so?

Absolutely, the classes were a great refresher for us. In addition, we learned a lot about water birth – something that we had planned to do for the second birth but had not done for the first. The classes also helped us realize the things that happened at our first birth that we really wanted or really didn’t want to happen at the second.

  • What is one thing you think all parents should know before the birth of their baby?

Everyone will give you advice or use the ‘we did it this way and it worked out ok’ lines, but trust your instincts. We have done things (elimination communication, water birth, co-sleeping, etc.) that our parents, family, and/or friends have disagreed with or questioned us about, but having done a lot of research and seeing the positive results with Boston we feel confident that we are doing what’s best for our family. Knowledge is key, so research and don’t just assume that a ‘fact’ is accurate – there are many different parenting styles and a lot of ‘misinformation’ online and in the media. Lastly, remember at the end of the day that you and your spouse are on the ‘same team’ and striving for the same goal(s) – lack of sleep and other stressors can cause frustration between you and your spouse, but keep your focus on what’s really important and how you can communicate and work together to be the best parents that you can be!

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BabyLove Featured Family: Heather, Brandon, Baby F, and Brother B

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April is coming to a close, but there’s still time for us to introduce our Featured Family for the month of April.  We’ve been so honored to know this family since the night they took our Elimination Class, right through the birth of their second child.  We’re starting today with Heather, and we will hear from her husband later this week.  Enjoy!

  • So far, what has been your biggest joy in becoming a mother again?

Getting the chance to enjoy the little things. Knowing that my baby is going to grow so quickly and that I get to enjoy every moment, even the tough ones! I never thought I would be so overjoyed to have a baby girl!!!

  • What has been the biggest challenge you’ve faced since your baby was born?

The long crying spells and breastfeeding. I thought with our first that he cried often because he was overtired and I was sure I had it all figured out this time around…Boy was I wrong!:) She has many crying spells and I do think it has to do with being overtired and trouble falling into a sleep state. I’m still unsure of why she is crying often, but I just always try to soothe her and I wear her most of the time. Breastfeeding was also tough because Finnley had trouble latching on. I thought the second time would be a breeze after breastfeeding my son for a year. It sure is different nursing a newborn! It is tough, but SO worth it! Giving up was never an option for me though, so I just worked through it. It only took 3 weeks for us to get the hang of it!

  • Where and how have you found support for yourself when you’ve needed it?

I’ve gotten a lot of support from other moms. Moms I met from the first time around and during this pregnancy. It’s nice to have Mama Cafe to go to every week- I make that a priority! I’ve gotten a lot of help from Veronica and Brittany! – from breastfeeding help to babywearing tips! I find that I am just one of those people that needs to vent my complaints and difficulties to relieve stress:). My parents are also around to help when my husband works late. It is nice that my husband will change/rock Finnley when I’m done feeding her. I don’t feel as bad asking this time around:) Just because I’m not working does not mean I don’t need sleep!

  • Did you feel that your childbirth classes prepared you for this birth? How so?

Very much so! I felt much more empowered to have a natural birth, which was what I wanted. I felt I learned a TON about the process of labor and birth and the effects of interventions- even after going to a class the first time around!

  • What is one thing you think all parents should know before the birth of their baby?

It is more life changing than most people think. It is so incredible… you can’t believe you made this perfect little being. But there’s also the tough part. Waking up all hours of the night is a lot more difficult than it sounds, but it only lasts for a short period of time in the grand scheme of things. Be prepared to ask people for help! Other cultures have people helping them with everything for weeks after the birth of a baby- you don’t have to do everything and be super parents!!!! When family comes over to hold your baby, take a nap! Whenever you can, SLEEP! :) Cuddle your baby as much as you can, each phase passes so fast!

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Buying Baby Items at Garage Sales

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Image credit: Mark Turnauckas via Flickr (used under Creative Commons)

Now that the sun is out, the snow is mostly melted, temps are rising, it’s finally time for garage sale season.  Garage sales are a great way to save money on items for you baby or child, for sure!  There are some things you should keep in mind when out shopping to make sure that you’re saving money, not wasting it.

  • Don’t buy car seats at garage sales- I don’t know what else to say.  It’s pretty straightforward.  This is the ONE absolutely, completely necessary baby item you’ll need, but also the most critical to your child’s life.  Save money on everything else, but not this.
  • Make sure the item you’re buying wasn’t recalled- When you are out and about, it’s impossible to keep in mind all of the strollers, high chairs, and other baby items that have been recalled over the years.  There are a couple of ways to check on the status of an item if you have your smart phone with you.  Recall.gov keeps track of every recall issued.  They have a mobile app that you can download (though it looks like it’s only for Android phones), but they also have a mobile site that you can access easily on the go. Find more info on their website.
  • Be realistic on your ability to properly clean a product- I’ve been a mom for almost 8 years, and some things are just really hard to clean.  If it’s fabric, make sure that you can remove it completely, otherwise you’re just stuck spot-treating any dirt.  And plastic seems like it would be easy to clean, but some things have too many corners to clean. If it’s totally grungy, just pass on it.
  • Avoid drop-side cribs- Drop side cribs have (mostly) been illegal to sell or resell for a little while.  If they have been repaired and the drop side is in a locked, fixed position, then they are fine (because the recall has been fixed). Again, check out the info above to make sure the recall has been repaired.
  • Avoid stains- Is this obvious? Maybe.  I’ve seen so many pins, been told so many things to try on stubborn stains, but the truth is, baby stains are hard to get out.  There will be more onesies. Pass on stained clothes, no matter how cute.
  • Make sure the cloth diapers will work- Before buying used cloth diapers, ask if they used diaper cream, what kind of detergent they used, and, perhaps most importantly, why they stopped using them.  If their baby just grew out of them, that’s fine.  But if they stopped using them because the diapers leaked, you might want to pass.  You can try stripping the diapers, but that’s not guaranteed to work.

Happy spring and enjoy the garage sale hunt!

 

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BabyLove: More FAQs answered!

More FAQs

Questions, questions, and more questions!  We’ve been asked a few more questions recently, so we thought we would take another chance for a quick blog post to answer them for everyone.  We’re always to answer more questions if you leave them in the comments, too!

Is Mama Cafe only for moms who are breastfeeding?  What about moms who are bottle feeding?

When we first opened, we had a goal of having a free community support group for breastfeeding mothers where they could come and get their pressing questions answered, meet other moms, as well as other unexpectedly wonderful things.  Part of the reason for the was to support the Baby-Friendly Hospital Initiative, which calls for community breastfeeding groups to exist.  The other reason was that we knew that there was a huge need for weekly consistent support for breastfeeding.

While we don’t have any policies for not allowing breastfeeding moms in the group, we do have a focus on supporting breastfeeding.  That’s the main emphasis of the group, so we help moms understand the normal process of breastfeeding and encourage them to find ways to meet their breastfeeding goals. Right now, because of the amount of time we already spend every week on everything else, we don’t have any time right now to add another group that’s a more broad new mom group. We do have plans for other groups in the future, but we think doing one free support group a week is doing pretty good.

Can I join an existing Lamaze series part way through?  Is there a way to make up for the other classes?

Whenever families have to miss classes, we do our very best to have a couple of options for other dates that they can attend.  Usually, we can offer 2 different dates, which is pretty great!  And for families that might need to jump in to the middle of a series, they are completely welcome to finish a series and then start the next series to get the rest of the material.  The only trick is that we need to manually add them into the series, so it’s necessary to call or email to register mid-series.

Do you allow nursing students to sit in on your class? How about certifying doulas?

Absolutely!  As long as I have been teaching, I have had nursing students sit in on my hospital classes.  We do restrict the number of people observing any one class to just one, so we do ask student nurses (and doulas) to be respectful, show up on time, and participate in class appropriately.  There is a small materials fee that covers the cost of printing, snacks, etc.  And we do ask that students remember that they are there representing their college or doula program, so poor behavior reflects poorly not only in our eyes, but the parents’ eyes as well.

Anything else you want to know?  Leave your questions in the comments below, and we’ll reply!

Warmly,

Veronica

 

 

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Four reasons to rethink pacifiers

Pacifiers are such a tricky issue.  Many babies are given pacifiers while still in the hospital.  Tired, frustrated parents unprepared to have realistic expectations of newborn needs turn to pacifiers out of frustration.  Doctors, nurses, and midwives, perhaps lacking the time, energy, or skill to help breastfeeding moms, suggest pacifiers to mothers who actually need breastfeeding counseling.   And while most people downplay the role that pacifiers have in creating “nipple confusion”, the truth is that there are some other very important things to consider when making the decision to use a pacifier.

1) Babies are weaned from the breast earlier

There are multiple studies that have found a link between pacifier use and early weaning.  You can find one here, and here, and here.  Although many of the studies don’t point directly to a reason why this might be true, one theory is that mothers who use pacifiers are more likely to already be having breastfeeding issues, and turn to pacifiers out of frustration.  One large issue that I see with pacifiers is that they can allow parents to miss early hunger cues, or use pacifiers to “hold off” baby from feeding for a period of time.  When early hunger cues are missed, the only sign that baby is hungry can be crying, and it is very difficult to initiate breastfeeding with a crying baby. (Well, it’s hard for any of us to eat while crying, and babies are no different.) Also, when parents use pacifiers in an attempt to space out feedings, not only does baby not get enough breastmilk, but mom’s supply will be negatively affected by not providing baby enough of an opportunity to nurse.  Both of these scenarios can lead to frustrated parents, who then might wean before they originally intended to.

2) Pacifiers use is linked to more ear infections

This study found that children under the age of two were almost three times more likely to have ear infections. Another study found that when older babies are using pacifiers while in child care, they are much more likely to develop recurring ear infections.  All of these things are very significant.  Ear infections are no fun, we all know that.  And since the AAP guidelines for treating ear infections have been changed to avoiding antibiotic use, prevention is something to consider.

3) Pacifiers are likely to be contaminated with yeast 

Among other things. This study found that 44% of the pacifiers they examined had candida bacteria, and the children who had those pacifiers had oral yeast infections.  And since some of the most popular treatments for yeast infections have been called into question for their safety, preventing thrush is an important thing to consider when advising parents on pacifier use.

4) Pacifiers cause long-term dental issues

Many studies have found links between pacifiers and dental caries, as well as decay. Additionally, pacifiers cause the teeth to grow outward and the roof of the mouth to be raised, which makes it much more likely that the child will need to have orthodontic care later in life to correct teeth issues.

Now, let me be clear:  I’m not saying that pacifiers shouldn’t ever be used. However, I find parents can use them without thinking about the long-term possibilities of frequent pacifier use.  Additionally, as is true with things like nipple shields, they are no substitute for parent education and breastfeeding support done by someone with appropriate skills to help moms with breastfeeding.

The comments are open, but are moderated, as always.  I know this can be a heated topic, so please keep all comment evidence-based.

Warmly,

 

Veronica

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